๐”I Didn’t Get the Job!”๐ญ
Ouch!
โ๐๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฏ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐๐ข๐ช๐ด๐บ, ๐ ๐ฅ๐ช๐ฅ๐ฏโ๐ต ๐จ๐ฆ๐ต ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ซ๐ฐ๐ฃ. ๐๐ต ๐ฉ๐ข๐ด ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ณ๐ฆ-๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ด๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ ๐ธ๐ข๐ด ๐จ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ธ๐ข๐ด ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ ๐ธ๐ข๐ด๐ฏโ๐ต ๐ข๐ด๐ด๐ฆ๐ณ๐ต๐ช๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ถ๐จ๐ฉ. ๐๐ฉ๐ฆ๐บ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ค๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ข๐จ๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ข๐ฑ๐ฑ๐ญ๐บ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ช๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ โ๐ง๐ถ๐ต๐ถ๐ณ๐ฆโ ๐ฃ๐ถ๐ต ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ค๐ถ๐ณ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต๐ญ๐บ ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ช๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด. ๐๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐จ๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ด๐ข๐ช๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ ๐ธ๐ข๐ด ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฑ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ช๐ฏ๐ต๐ฆ๐ณ๐ท๐ช๐ฆ๐ธ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐ด๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ง๐ญ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ ๐ธ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ญ. ๐๐ง ๐ ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ ๐จ๐ฆ๐ต ๐ถ๐ฑ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ท๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ณ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ฅ, ๐โ๐ญ๐ญ ๐ฃ๐ฆ ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฐ๐ถ๐ค๐ฉ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ถ๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ฆ๐ต๐ค. ๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฌ๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฆ๐น๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ.โ
A lot of pain can come from receiving news like this. No one goes to an interview expecting not to get the job, but the reality is that life happens! We canโt win them all. However, am a bit perplexed that they encouraged her to “apply for positions in the future but none of the currently open positions.” Is this a case that she was close but โlacked somethingโ? Hmmmโฆ
As much as she appreciated the positive feedback on her preparation and interview performance, she is disappointed and frustrated because it has been reposted. Who wouldn’t be?
My advice:
I often suggest to clients that it’s OK to host a ‘pity party’ for themselves when they get news like this. We are human; we are going to feel disappointed, and it’s okay to ‘grieve’. But, it won’t help to stay too long at that party, because there is work to be done! I know it, because I have been in that space.
My response to her is to take some time to mull over the situation, and when sheโs ready:
โ Have a deeper conversation with the interviewer. (Itโs an internal role). Ask them about specific areas they could improve, especially regarding assertiveness.
โ Consider assertiveness workshops to build confidence in that area. (Ask me about that).
โ Search for sales-related courses (LinkedIn Learning, Coursera or Udemy), as a part of her upskilling journey. Then add it to her resume.
โ Reflect on the interview experience to identify strengths and areas for growth. Continuous improvement is important.
โ Stay positive (as best as possible), and continue applying for other positions to gain more interview experience, and ultimately a new job!
โ Find a mentor or a job-shadowing opportunity in Sales.
Since this situation is something many of us deal with fairly often, what else would you add to help someone in such a dilemma?
